Your child is starting counseling for the first time and there are tons of things you’re concerned about. You feel confused about your role in Your child’s counseling journey and want to be respectful, while also still informed. Let’s face it, you’ve known your child their whole life and now there are things outside of your control that seem to be hurting them. The idea of counseling can be scary because of the unknown factors. This blog will speak to some of those concerns and help your understanding of your child’s counseling journey.
You can be part of your child’s counseling journey.
Although you likely want to be part of every single moment of your child’s counseling appointments, it may not be beneficial. Depending on your child’s age your child’s counselor may recommend, suggest, or even discourage your participation in counseling sessions. The older the child, the less likely it is you’ll be recommended to stay in the therapy appointment. The younger the child is, the more likely it is for the parent to be present more of the time. Your child’s counselor may request to speak to you occassionally one to one. Sometimes it’s best to do check-ins at the start of session starts or towards the end- this is determined on how best to let the child to see what they share in counseling is still private. Sometimes teens grow frustrated and may begin to withdraw and hold information back from the counselor if he/she believes the counselor will tell their parents everything.
The parent has access to the child’s counselor.
Remember your child’s counselor is intended to support your child first and foremost. Obviously, the child is coming from a larger family system which means your child does not live alone. That being said, sometimes family members need support in how best to help the child get through their presenting problems. Your child’s counselor may recommend family counseling, parenting, counseling, or even marital counseling if your child’s counselor feels their issues may be part of a greater issue.
Your child’s counselor is not the best person for legal problems.
Well, it may seem obvious in child, custody and legal situations in the home, divorce, and city arrangements, for your child’s counselor. This is not always right from London. I love Luz Counseling. Remember the child has little to do with the parents marriage or come on marital status or divorce. We encourage parents and adults to leave the kids out of it unless they can. We understand their times this is not possible. We encouraged child custody evaluator‘s or other Legal professionals to aid in legal processes. Your child counselor specializes in mental and emotional issues. Not legal ones.
Your child is entitled to some level of privacy.
Remember, all clients have a right to privacy and confidentiality- this includes your child. Ultimately, your child does not have 100% confidentiality because they are a child. You are your child’s guardian so in this case you have rights too. You have the right to know what happens in counseling appointments and can request access to your child’s record at any time. Keep in mind, this means both parents or both guardians. If you and your child’s other biological parent are not together, this may not be a factor. Both guardians, regardless of the parents marital state have full access to the child’s record. Unless of course there is a legal court order disallowing one parent/guardian access and rights to the child and/or their mental or pscyhological health.
We encourage every child to exercise some level of privacy and confidentiality. However, a child’s parents have the right to also exercise certain rights. This includes knowing how to contact your child counselor, hours of availability, and certain access into the child’s clinical record. how a pair of conduct himself in and around the therapy process cannot even tell us a lot of the dynamic with the family and child presenting issue. A counselor is part of your child’s team. If you were a part of your chance to come out that means your counselors part of your team. We all want what’s best for your child.