WRITTEN BY: JENNIFER PATRICK, LMSW

Does your child seem overwhelmed after school? It’s pretty common for after school anxiety in children to occur during the transition from school to home. Between homework, after-school activities, and just needing some downtime, they can get a little frazzled. Plus, they’ve been holding it together all day at school and might let their emotions out at home, leading to tantrums or difficulty adjusting. But don’t worry! There are simple ways you can help them relax and still get things done.

1. Snack & Chill (10-15 minutes)

After a long day at school, a snack and some chill time are perfect! Offer something yummy and healthy—maybe some fruit, yogurt, or a granola bar. A snack will help them recharge and feel ready for what’s next.

During this time, let them unwind with a simple activity like coloring, reading, or even just chatting with you about their day. This little break helps them transition without feeling rushed. Try to skip screens, though, since those can be a bit too stimulating!

2. Move It! (10-20 minutes)

A little movement can work wonders. Whether it’s playing outside, riding a bike, or doing some stretches or yoga, getting their body moving can help shake off any built up tension from the school day. Plus, moving around releases feel good chemicals in the brain, which can help reduce anxiety.

If they’re stuck indoors, no problem! Try some indoor activities like dancing, jumping jacks, or following along with a kid friendly yoga video. It’s a great way to reset and feel energized before diving into homework.

3. Homework Time! (30-60 minutes)

Now that they’ve had some chill and movement time, it’s time for homework. Setting a regular time for homework can help your child know what to expect. Create a cozy, quiet space where they can focus, and let them know they don’t have to do it all at once!

Break the homework into little chunks—maybe 20-30 minutes of focused work with a 5-10 minute break in between. This makes homework less overwhelming and more manageable. Plus, those short breaks will help keep their mind fresh and anxiety low.

4. Fun with Extracurriculars (30-60 minutes or more)

Extracurricular activities can be both fun and relaxing! Whether it’s sports, music, or art, these activities can help your child express themselves and burn off some extra energy. But be careful not to over-schedule them! One or two activities a week is plenty to keep things fun without adding stress.

Let your child pick the activities they truly enjoy, and make sure they still have some downtime to just be a kid!

5. Wind Down Before Bed (20-30 minutes)

A relaxing bedtime routine helps ease any lingering anxiety. This can include reading a book, writing in a journal, or taking a warm bath. These calming activities will help your child’s mind and body know it’s time to wind down.

If your child is feeling extra anxious, try some breathing exercises or a short, calming meditation. Simple breathing exercises like the 4-4-4 method (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds) are great tools to help them relax before bed.

Final Thoughts

After school anxiety in children is normal, but it doesn’t have to take over the evening! With a balanced routine that includes relaxation, a little movement, and time for homework and activities, your child can unwind and still get everything done. By creating a simple after school plan, you can help them feel more relaxed, less anxious, and ready to enjoy the rest of their day.

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7